December Fourth, 2023

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So I was working with a mentorship program person today — Jordan.

What they wanted to work on in this session was their relationship with alcohol. It was really interesting that they worded it that way specifically.

When I went in to ask them what motivated them to drink — what was the driving force behind it — with all the self-work and healing they had already done, they knew it came from escapism, coping mechanisms, and abuse at a young age.

Then there was hanging out with older people, that party vibe, and even adults in their family who drank. I said, “Great. Awesome. But that is not what I am talking about.”

It was about finding the personal motive — the deeper layer. And what we found was that alcohol transported them to the level other people were on, for relatability.

So I said, “The first thing we need to address is that alcohol is transportation for you. It is a transportation device. It gets you to a level.”

Then, “The next thing we need to figure out is that you are a feeler. And as a feeler — someone who relates to people, helps people, gains clarity for people — you are going to get your energetic feelers all up in their stuff.”

There were a couple different analogies in the session, and I tried to pull them together.

The first one was about how the first time they got drunk, it was on something like Southern Comfort — whiskey — and they did not even like it.

I said, “Okay, that is like taking an Uber with one star and sticky seats — it is grimy, uncomfortable, and you are not even enjoying the ride. You are just trying to get to the destination.”

Then I said, “Let us bring that into real life. If you really wanted to get to the club, and your friends could not pick you up for 30 minutes, and the only thing available was this nasty Uber, what would you do?”

They said, “I would walk or hitchhike.”

And I said, “Bingo. Energetically, that is what you are doing. You are hitchhiking into the level of drunk that other people are at. But when you do that, you are also pulling in their alcohol — their energy — so you end up feeling more hungover, more tired, sometimes even depressed, because you have synced into their stuff.”

That is how we re-framed how alcohol works with their body — and their relationship to it — as transportation. 

The next step to gaining control over alcohol use was about teaching younger them not to feel shame about it — not to just “not do it,” or avoid the party — but to shift perspective.

I said, “If you pull out the lens and look at it: if you are carrying around a drink all night, people could think it is your fifth or sixth drink.”

I told them, “I have had this Red Bull for over an hour — it is more than half full and not even cold anymore — but to a party-goer, it just looks like I am drinking. They do not care.”

So we talked about how you can physically water down your drink, fill it with Coke, juice, water — whatever — or even just carry it around partly empty. No one knows, no one is judging.

Then we got into the energetic level: you can literally pull out the energy or molecular structure of alcohol.

I told Jordan that when I would go to lunch with Ben, if I had a class or live session later, I might still want my margarita with my Mexican food. So I would pull out half the alcohol — leave the taste — and put that half into Ben’s drink so he could have more fun with it. That way, I could still enjoy the experience and not feel gross or off-balance.

Then we talked about how your 24th-dimensional form actually eats alcohol and other substances — which is why infusing yourself with water and nutrients afterward helps you sober up.

Next came the “feelers” analogy. I said, “Your feelers are like a tongue in your mouth. Even if you tell it to chill, your tongue does its own thing — it keeps searching around, trying to fix or taste what is there. It is part of you, but it acts on its own.”

So we broke the contracts that made her feelers responsible for helping everyone else.

And when that happens, it is like everyone gets their own little lightbulb moment — they grab their own toothpick to clear their stuff out — so your “tongue” feelers do not have to do it anymore.

I know it is kind of a weird analogy, but it fit. It is not dangerous that your energy gets intertwined; you just have to recognize it and untangle it.

Then, we had to address one more thing — how people speak up for Jordan. Like, “Oh, this is Jordan, she does not drink.”

And I was like, “Fuck that. Do not talk for me.”

We talked about how Jordan does not want to seem rude, but knows how to be when it is for others — not always for themselves.

So we worked on standing up for themselves — it does not have to be loud. It can just be, “I am good, thanks. You do not need to talk for me.”

Overall, it was a really good session — deep, layered, healing — and I wanted to share it to give perspective. Hopefully it helps someone else too.

Okay. Bye.